Naranasan mo na ba yung meron kang gustong gawin, pero hindi natutuloy dahil sa takot?
“Ayoko na, baka mangyari nanaman yung dati.”
Yun bang natatakot ka na baka maulit muli dahil ito ay nag cause ng trauma sayo?
“Habang buhay na yata magiging bangungot sa akin yun.”
Masyado ka nasa safe side at ayaw mo na mag-take ng risk.
“Ok na yung ganitong buhay, kahit mahirap ok lang, at least hindi ako masasaktan.”
Siguro may nangyari na sa atin in the past na hindi natin makalimutan. Gusto man natin mag-move on na pero parang may humahatak sa atin at di tayo makausad. At hirap na hirap tayo makapagsimula muli.
Kung ito ang naiisip at nararamdaman mo, then read on.
Alam mo, huwag ka mawalan ng pag-asa because there are ways on how to get over your failed past.
FOCUS ON THE THINGS THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY
Reliving and bringing up past failures can be really sad and painful, hindi ba? So bakit ito ang pipiliin mong isipin at maramdaman?
Train your mind na mag-isip ng happy thoughts, gaya ng mga times and moments na ikaw ay masaya at successful. Remind yourself about yung first time na nabigyan ka ng award sa school; yung first time na binigyan ka ng reward ng magulang mo for good behaviour; yung first time ikaw ay nasabihan ng boss mo, “Job well done, I am proud of you.” Believe me, you’ll also feel calm, peaceful, and glad. The more you dwell on the positive, the better you will feel; the more you dwell on the negative, the more it will make you feel depressed.
Start practicing, I can assure you, you will feel much better.
LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PAST
Despite the pain, meron at merong lesson iyan that will help us conquer the fear and instead, be thankful that it happened.
Halimbawa:
- “Natutunan kong mas mag-aral mabuti kasi dati bumagsak grades ko.”
- “Natutunan kong mahalin at bigyan ng importansya sarili ko nung iniwan niya ako.”
- “Natutunan kong mag-budget nung mga panahong lumubog ako sa utang.”
Everything that happens has a reason, kailangan lang natin hanapin yung kagandahan behind it instead of blaming ourselves and mag pity party.
LIVE IN THE PRESENT
Wala naman masama na matuto sa ating past mistakes, pero huwag naman sana yung para siyang bangungunot na ito ay iyong kinakatakutan.
“Paano na kung maulit?”
Wala din masama kung tayo ay mag daydream, pero huwag naman sana na iniisip mo yung mga masasamang posibleng mangyari.
“Paano na kung hindi mag-work?”
Always remind yourself that what you’re supposed to be dealing with is the NOW, not the past nor the future.
Past is past while the future has worry of it’s own.
THINK OF THE NOW!
It would help kung hindi mo ikukulong at paparusahan ang sarili mo ng dahil lang sa nangyari sa nakaraan mo.
Do the things that you haven’t done before like a hobby, sport, or catching up with friends and family, so that you can create new and wonderful memories.
THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.
Ano ba yung mga experiences mo in the past na hindi mo makalimutan?
Paano mo ito hinaharap sa ngayon? Umiiyak, nagkukulong, o umiiwas?
Paano mo matutulungan ang sarili mo para tuluyan na itong mawala sa isip mo?
Chinkee Tan is a famous motivational speaker in the Philippines. He specializes in topics such as personal development, building and strengthening relationships and financial management to name a few. To this day, he continues to inspire thousands of people through his books, free business seminars in the Philippines, social media and being invited to be a motivational corporate speaker to different organizations.
Did you enjoy this article? Check on these related posts:
- PRACTICAL WAYS TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR
- What Can We Learn From The Great Muhammad Ali?
- ARE YOU LIVING IN FEAR?
Chinkee Tan is a Wealth Coach, Keynote Speaker, and Best-selling Author on personal finance and wealth management. He has written 16 best-selling books and counting. His mission is to equip millions of Filipinos to be free from financial stress & experience financial freedom.